Last weekend was our 12 year anniversary. We spent it driving home from our family beach vacation (more likely titled trip). We finished the day by taking the family out to eat. It was fun. But it also involved lots of stops, snacks, diaper changes, “are we there yet” on repeat, and in the case of the parents: coffee.
I wasn’t disappointed and as a bonus I had something to look forward to, which was this weekend when we got to leave for a fun weekend in South Beach, Miami… Wait for it…. Without the kids. I don’t mean it negatively to sound so excited. I love my kids. I spent our ten year anniversary being pregnant with one of them. We just have never had a chance to get away like this, so this would not only be a great way to celebrate our twelve year adventure, but also an amazing opportunity to just be Dereck and Marina for the first time in years. As we started packing I realized that this trip is not just us alone doing whatever whenever without any schedule, but it’s also a weekend of nobody needing snacks, nobody having to go potty with our help, going to bed at whatever time we want and staying in bed and till whenever we feel.
When we went through check-in I grinned at the families in line and then hoped I am not sitting next to them on the plane. When we went through security, I didn’t have to count to four to make sure all my kids were there, I didn’t need to pull out seven baskets to put all our stuff through on the on the X-ray belt, I didn’t have to wait as little people put their shoes back on after the security check. I didn’t even break a sweat. I almost didn’t know what to do with myself. We grabbed coffee and breakfast and sat in the waiting area next to each other, silently enjoying the time together even before we got on the plane. We chatted without interruption and sipped our coffees excited for some fun in the sun, but already appreciating the time together. On the plane I was imagining us waking in and out of sleep until at least 8:00, 10:30, then having breakfast in bed or brunch by the ocean, working out together instead of playing relay workout that started with one of us at 5:30 and the other at 7, and then, unconstrained by nap times, having some fun all over town, with a nap on the beach before a late dinner with drinks, and maybe a little bar or lounge hopping… Or even a place where I can pretend like I can dance and embarrass my husband till the sun comes up. And, in a nutshell, that’s pretty much what happened.
Now as we are all settled in on the plane and I sit here looking over at my best friend, I feel really grateful that after everything we have been together we are still not only in love, but also in like. We can have fun together and have lots to talk about, and we can be silent together and feel completely at ease. We not only know each other, but we have grown up together in a way, and made life changing decisions together. Everything was not always easy, and I don’t think it always will be, but I feel grateful and happy that every happy and every challenging moment, and every easy step and adventure, I take with this man. And as for time as Dereck and Marina, well that was super fun, but Dereck and Marina have a litter of kids waiting for them, and thought I appreciate every second of our time alone together and definitely want to do this again next year, I am excited to come home to our crazy busy life with our four silly, fun, sweet little monkeys.